Oh relationships, the best platform to learn from. They shape our lives.
I have been spending a lot of time being forced to look directly in the mirror to reflect on how I cope and handle day to day stressors. The perfectionist side of me is humbled by the abundant opportunities to find gratification in being imperfect. The giver side of me is fulfilled that I can still be loved and appreciated even when I don’t meet everyones needs. We can all find these strengths in our relationships and cultivate healthy ways to voice our fears without judgement.
1. Providing positive feedback and praise, while having oversight of the negative provides a platform for fist pumping success. Surprising, a situation when your loved one steps in dog poop, then walks around the house proclaiming that the shovel has been put away is a moment of achievement. Saying thank you for the gardening tidiness is a great reward that can be applied to many other aspects of life. Not acknowledging the poop can save you many hours of mopping the floor in the future.
2. Sometimes things are funny. I have the experience of having evening dates with a male who likes to jump on couches and claiming he is Humpty dumpty falling off a wall. He also likes to fill the tub with unreasonably expensive organic soap so he can yell out “body bubbles!”. The most poignant is when he jumps and rolls in folded laundry and says, “I am a pig rolling in mud, oink oink.” My “That’s not funny” reply is always met with , “It is funny, it really is!” With a change of perspective, it is funny and we could all use an innocent laugh.
3. The day with dancing and music is more entertaining. Perhaps I am crazy, but life is more interesting when sung in different kinds of voices. Sometimes describing making a sandwich is more momentous when sung in a Louis Armstrong tone or rapped in a Tupac voice. Try it in your next meeting and I guarantee the mood will be uplifted.
4. Patience. Patience. PATIENCE!!! We all need it so why isn’t it here! Get my point? Take a deep breath. It is ok if you have to repeat expectations a thousand times. Guaranteed someone else has to be force to be patient with you, too. You had to get where you are at somehow. Yes, this is true.
5. Sometimes we all need a break. Everything doesn’t need to get done today. Play, take a deep breath, enjoy moments and snap a picture. We all know what Ferris Bueller taught us.
All of these reminders sent forth by my two year old son and I am still learning. You get the gist, apply it to your life situation. Learn and remember to be patient if you mess up. At least there isn’t poop on your shoe…. or is there?